I recently had an epiphany about friendship. And it’s all about the couch – It’s all about the people in your lives that you feel the most at home with, because after all, isn’t that what a couch is? A comfortable space in your home that you fit in no matter what. And isn’t that what you want in a friendship – a comfortable space where you fit in no matter what?
I love my couch. To me, my couch represents a special place. A place where I get to sit and relax after a long day of parenting. A place I share with my husband every night, where we talk over the ins and outs of the day and what the future holds. It’s a place where I bet you could look closely and find the juice stain and the goldfish crackers in the crevices, the signs of small children enjoying this special place. It’s a calming place.
So who gets to be a friend on your metaphorical couch? It’s the friend that you can say and do anything with. It’s the friend who sticks by you no matter what, NO MATTER WHAT. It’s the friend that you can go months without seeing, but when you do see them, you pick up right where you left off. It’s someone who is so much like you that it’s scary, or someone that is completely the yin to your yang. It’s the people you call first when something good, bad, sad, exciting happens. That’s a metaphorical couch friend.
It has become more and more apparent to me as I get older that friendships are sacred. I never understood this until I was older, and that I regret, but I’m grateful that I see now. I see that friendships are not to be taken for granted, because they could fade at any time.
People change, which means friendships change too. Metaphorical couch friends are kind to each other through changes, supportive and understanding. My challenge to all of you is to find the people who are on your metaphorical couch and keep them there, maybe even invite them to your actual couch. Tell them how much they mean to you.
And should a metaphorical couch friend decide to take a break from your couch, just let them. If they made it to couch friend status, there is a chance they’ll come back. And when they do, let them. That’s what a couch friend does!
So tell me! Who’s on your metaphorical couch?